The Knowledge Project #219 · April 1, 2025 · 1h 45m

Logan Ury: Unlocking the Secrets to Building Strong Relationships

Logan Ury — behavioral scientist, Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, author of How to Not Die Alone. Why chasing 'the spark' is bad advice, the three dating tendencies that sabotage relationships, and why great relationships are built, not discovered.

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Relationships predict life satisfaction

Ury's entire career is built on this premise. Independent confirmation from a behavioral scientist at Hinge.

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Highlights

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The spark is overrated — great relationships are built, not discovered

Chasing the spark leads to choosing exciting partners over compatible ones. Slow-burn connections often produce the best relationships.

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Three dating tendencies: Romanticizer, Maximizer, Hesitater

Three blind spots that sabotage dating. Each group struggles with unrealistic expectations of themselves, partners, or relationships.

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References

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How to Not Die Alone — Logan Ury (2021) — Behavioral science applied to dating and relationships

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✧Director of Relationship Science at Hinge

✧Former behavioral scientist at Google's Behavioral Economics team

✧The spark is overrated — compatibility and growth matter more