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On Purpose with Jay Shetty · March 31, 2026 · 49m
Dr. Gabor Maté: Constantly Worrying What People Think of You?
Dr. Gabor Maté live at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver. Why we obsess over what others think — it starts in childhood when our need to be seen isn't fully met. We adapt by hiding parts of ourselves. Real change begins with small moments of awareness: pausing, listening to the quiet inner voice, and giving yourself permission to honor it.
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Obsession with others' perception begins in childhood when the need to be seen isn't met. We adapt by hiding parts of ourselves.
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Maté: pause, listen to the quiet inner voice, ask honest questions about what feels true. Applied Stoic awareness.
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Winnicott (1960): when authenticity threatens attachment, attachment wins. The child develops a false self. Maté's modern framing of a 65-year-old insight.
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The Myth of Normal — Gabor Maté (2022) — Maté's framework for how trauma shapes identity
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✧Live recording at the Orpheum Theatre in Vancouver
✧Maté is 82 years old — still touring and speaking